This one rule will guide you in every situation where the correct path is not clear. Suppose you’re a guy. Yes, having that gorgeous bombshell grinding on your lap with her breasts bouncing mere inches from your nose seems like a great idea. Odds are, your spouse probably doesn’t share your enthusiasm. If she encourages this course of action, consider yourself lucky… (but also keep in mind it’s more likely a trap that will be sprung at some point in the future when you least expect it.)
For the ladies, yes getting on a stage with the two beautiful dancers that make you question your sexuality may seem like a good idea at the time, but be cautious. Yes, any red blooded man would love to see his lover “get down” with a pair of smoking hot babes, but once he figures out he’s really not invited to join the fun, his perspective can change very quickly.
Throw alcohol into the mix and the rules of engagement get blurred very quickly. Societal norms are already skewed in a strip club. Add a partner, mix in some booze, and pretty soon you have no idea what is acceptable behavior. I talked to a security manager at an upscale gentlemen’s club who reflected, “You know, we hardly ever have any fights in here, and when we do it’s usually a couple.”
For the Guys
Gents, first off, don’t pressure your girl into going to a strip club. Drop some casual suggestions, if she’s into it, she’ll let you know. Dragging her into a club against her will is the recipe for a class 5 disaster. Once she has agreed, or better yet, suggested the idea, try to let her take the lead. As much as you want to show her your extensive strip club knowledge and skill, this tactic will backfire. Sure, order the drinks, select the table, be “the man” on matters of no consequence. But when it comes to the girls, let her make the decision. Give her encouragement. Suggest she take a stack of singles to the stage and have some fun. Go with her if she wants.
But focus on her. She’ll connect with a dancer eventually, then let the professional do her thing. She will focus on your lady and deftly drive the conversation to a more “private” venue. Until you’re really sure how your partner is going to approach the concept, get the dancers to focus on her. You’ll be thankful at the end of the night, and if you’re fortunate, she’ll beg for another strip club date night.
Gals, if you’re going to the strip club with your man, this is the one place where you need to take control. Pick the girls, order rounds, suggest private dances, get into it! There’s nothing more lame than a girl who says “I’m down for some strip club action” who then sits timidly in the corner. Get a dance for yourself and be sure to buy one for your man.
He’ll be turned on that you’re confident enough in your sexuality that you’re not worried about who he’s going home with or who he’s thinking of all day. If at any point you feel uncomfortable, simply whisper in his ear “Let’s get out of here, I have something I want to show you.” You probably haven’t seen him move so fast in a long time!
In & Out
The idea behind a couple’s night at a strip club is to stimulate your relationship. Sure, stay for awhile and have some fun. Get turned on. In order to capitalize on your heightened sexual state, get back to your room, or van, or wherever, and turn that erotic energy into passionate exploration.
Going to a strip club involves a lot of moving parts, all which much work in concert in order for both partners to have a good time. Another option is to hire a private stripper or book an erotic massage in your room.
This eliminates the distractions from other guests at a club, you can relax in the privacy of your own hotel room. And pick the perfect entertainer or provider to suit your tastes. You can play the music you like to really set the mood. And best of all, drinks are much cheaper.
Whatever route you go, just remember to have fun and enjoy the ride!